In a video that’s making waves this week, successful businessman Ricky Reyes, founder of the iconic hairdressing empire that bears his name, echoes what had long been the sentiment of a good chunk of the gay community. Reyes makes a good point — that the gay community need not force themselves upon the broader public space as they are already part of a strong community that enjoy a long historical record of contributing value to society.
Ang affair ng mga bakla dapat sa atin lang ‘yan. ‘Wag nating pangalandakan. Bakit pa kailangan sabihin sa madlang people na ‘Huy, intindihin mo nga ako. Bakla ako.
Translated: “The affairs of gay people are our own community’s alone. Let’s not impose this on others. Why do we pester people by telling them ‘Hey, pay attention to us. We are gay.'”
On the issue of transgender “women” Reyes points out that these people still think like and, for all intents and purposes, are gay men. “Grind them and they’ll come out as gay hamburgers,” he quips in Tagalog.
Ricky Reyes is saying what some of us have been saying for so long – that members of the LGBTQ+ community do not have to force themselves on people who don’t like them. They have their own community they can go to anyway. Reyes is also proof Philippine society has had a long history of embracing its gay community. He is a success in his chosen endeavour and testament to the reality that real acceptance comes on the back of achievement and measurable success.
A successful entrepreneur from way back in the 1980s when “gay rights” was not the snowflake fashion statement it is today, Reyes has proven that “rights” or no “rights” people who have what it takes will be successful whether gay or straight. That said, Reyes is proof that the Philippines has long been accepting of its gay community — with or without the snowflake “activism” that infests the discourse today.
Filipino comedian Vice Ganda misses the point by a mile when he weighed in on the debate around what makes a real woman.
The “It’s Showtime” host said he believes that a woman is not defined by her ability to reproduce, contradicting the statement of Sotto.
Addressing the senate president, Vice Ganda said: “Parang ang baba naman po pala ng tingin nyo sa mga BABAE. Naniniwala po ako na ang mga BABAE ay BABAE di dahil sa obaryo at sa kakayahang bumukaka at umire.
Here’s a reality check, Mr Ganda. Both genders — men and women — are defined by their reproductive roles. In fact, the whole point of sexuality is the production of offspring that contributes to the strengthening and diversity of a species’ gene pool.
Sexual reproduction ensures that there is a constant exchange and dilution of DNA and introduces competition in the propagation of its copies. The costly stuff we do to get someone in bed ensures that the most fit candidate gets to fuck. Today, we are all offspring of ancestors who successfully got some. They all went through the motions of jumping hoops to get someone in the sack with them. And this is why we — and all animals and plants that roam and take root in the earth today — continue to sustain our populations. The diversity of the gene pool makes us resilient to disease and the competition sexual reproduction demands ensures the fittest get to reproduce.
As a final point, you really shouldn’t be mansplaining womanhood to real women, Mr Ganda. It just make you come across as, well, a typical male.
As a woman, I don’t get how some men can say they “identify as a woman” because there is so much about being a woman that I myself don’t even understand. Like why do some of us go for “bad boys”? And they haven’t even tried having periods every month! Being a woman can be complicated.
There is so much about being a woman that goes far beyond looking like a woman. A woman has to be everything – be Madonna-like and be “fun” at the same time. Sometimes it’s hard to be “fun” because you could attract the wrong type of man. Just wearing a mini skirt can get you in a lot of trouble.
Men who identify as a woman do not know half of what real women go through. It’s not easy for women to voice their opinion because most societies still think women should be seen, not heard. We have to dress “appropriately” before we can be taken seriously.
Just because you think you’re a woman, doesn’t mean you are a woman. Real women have to deal with the hormones that drive us to behave like a woman. If you have to take drugs just to mimic what we naturally go through, then you are not a real woman. You merely want to be one.
Would you hire a man to care for your young kids? Would you hire a transvestite or transgender woman (i.e. a trans person who “identifies” as a woman)? Many parents would at best give the answer to those questions a second thought. Most likely their answers would be immediate and categorical.
See, certain “advocacies” quite simply will not make it across a hard line parents draw when it comes to the safety of their children. It would be the height of self righteousness for any leader of any “activist” cause to presume to even think of crossing that line.
There are many reasons behind parents’ personal decisions around who they would choose to entrust their children’s care to. Presume to know better than the thinking every parent applies into making that decision and you are asking for BIG trouble.
I read this rather pained article by a certain Jaya Jacobo published on Squeeze.Ph titled “Trans Politics after Gretchen Diez and Filipino Cisgenerity in a Time of Violence”. I describe it as “pained” because it comes across like the sad pleas of a spurned lover begging for the object of his affection to give him a “chance”.
The broader community of “hugot” sufferers would be quite familiar with the standard advise given to such poor sods — move on, live your life, and focus on those who accept you and appreciate you for who you are. Nobody is entitled to the acceptance much less the affections of those one pursues.
The kernel of the dysfunction in the thinking of “advocates” of trans “acceptance” is encapsulated in this passage from Jacobo’s piece…
I stood my ground and took my time. Another instance I opted to use the PWD restroom. And because it’s locked most of the time, I had to talk to the janitor, who looked at me from head to foot, only to ask about the disability that entitles me to the comfort of such room.
See, rather than take the advise of hugot counselors, he moves on and tries to force himself on other unappreciative communities — a second mistake he commits to come to terms with the first.
If today’s gender “activists” keep this up, they will continue to severely set back their cause and undo decades of progress their predecessors had supposedly achieved. The decline has already started thanks to the circus they kicked up around Gretchen Diez. But it is not too late to fix all that.
Recent revelations highlight the fact that Chayra Ganal, the janitress in the middle of the circus kicked up by Gretchen Diez (who “identifies” as a woman) after she was refused entry into a female restroom, is a contractual employee, pregnant, and a woman. Ganal is, in all ironies, the very embodiment of the archetypical “victim” the snowflakes who now rail against her have painted their people as.
Now Diez has been made into the shrill wailing postergirl of the LGBTQ “cause”. Even her political opinions are now reportedly given weight by no less than the Senate Committee on Women, Children, Family Relations and Gender Equality.
How about that, right?
Diez, it seems, is the latest manufactured victim that had been WEAPONISED by snowflakedom. Indeed, Ganal continues to be the subject of a vicious cyberbullying campaign being led by “thought leaders” of the feminist movement and the mighty Gay Lobby. No less than a member of Congress, Geraldine Roman is leading the charge, taking full advantage of the lofty soapbox accorded to her as a House Representative to launch her tirades against the hapless contractual employee of the vast Farmers Plaza Mall owned by the Araneta feudal clan.
Perhaps Gretchen Diez should man up and face the truth about what she had done. She used her connections while behind the dishonest disguise of victimhood to persecute the humble employee Chayra Ganal. That’s certainly not something to be proud of.
Just because certain minority communities with “alternative” lifestyles have come to be (or, contrary to what the snowflakes are whining about, already long been) accepted in society, does not mean they are entitled to a piece of one’s personal space. The key principle here is respect. The LGBTQ community had long ago earned it. Perhaps it’s time they learn a bit of it themselves.
LGBTQ. I heard there are new letters that have since been added to this acronym. How many more will be added? How much added cost to businesses and public facilities does each letter added to it contribute? Where will it end?
Indeed, here is an even more important question: Where is the consistency in advocacy?
Hating on men has become a fashion statement nowadays. The very nature of being a man seems to be a favourite whipping boy of today’s snowflake community. Yet, today, we see the very same snowflakes mansplaining public toilet politics to women.
Public toilets already suffer a bad rap in the Philippines. The country isn’t exactly renowned for the quality — and safety — of these important facilities. So when the issue concerns public toilets, the manner with which access to these is extended to transvestites and transgenders is the least among the priorities surrounding the management and development of these spaces.
A discussion on whether or not to allow transvestites to use the female public toilets is raging in the Philippines after a transvestite felt discriminated upon when she was banned from using the women’s toilet in a mall.
Those who are agreeing with the ban citing that perverts and men pretending to be trans can abuse the privilege to access women’s facilities and sexually assault women and girls are being labelled “bigots”.
Hang on a minute…Filipinos are very tolerant of gays and lesbians. I never witnessed discrimination against cross dressers and transvestites when I was growing up. It’s always been very much accepted in Philippine society. But now some people are calling those oppose to sharing public toilets “bigot”.
When I say tolerant, I am comparing Philippine society to other counties like Russia and even in Australia where, just a couple of decades ago, some gays were beaten up and thrown off cliffs. I never heard of anything like that in the Philippines. Some are ridiculed but their lifestyle is tolerated.
What we are seeing now, however, is a disturbing trend where the beliefs of a small community of “activists” are pushed in on others and a growing sense of entitlement that is already infringing on other people’s right and safety. An example of this is the push to allow other genders to use the women’s public toilet. This only serves to highlight things in a negative way…
It may be a gay issue, but it’s patriarchal conceit once again, expecting women to be the ones to adjust without throwing a fuss
I personally did not mind sharing until I was TOLD to share and grin and bear it.
It’s as if they don’t need to ask others if it is ok to use what’s always been designated for “women”. Ironic, right? A camp to which so-called “feminists” belong telling women to stand aside. They just push for what they want because they think they are entitled to it. There is something wrong with this mentality. Where does it end? Do we always have to adjust?
The latest circus surrounding transgenders’ and cross-dressers’ “right” to use female restrooms has highlighted the unintended consequences of militant liberalism. It brought to the fore the consequences of personal lifestyle choices that impact the broader community.
This is ironic because liberals espouse respecting people’s personal choices. However, they lost the plot along the way when they turned that notion into a sacred cow. They forgot that the outcomes of one’s personal choices become intrusions when they impact the personal spaces of people who, not for any choice available to them, are engaged in more conventional lifestyles.
This is also unfair on people who have made unconventional lifestyle choices but opt not to define their identity by those choices. Many prefer to quietly adapt their lifestyles to the existing conventions of the mainstream. They then become victims of the more flamboyant, noisy, and whiny members of their communities who presume to speak for them.
We should therefore start being a bit more circumspect with “advocacies” turned into dogma by militant “activists”.
Natural born women can’t help being women. But transgender women are men who chose to become a woman. As such, there is a consequence to that choice that they need to live with.
That’s not how Bataan Rep. Geraldine Roman reportedly sees it, unfortunately…
“If you have a problem, magtiis ka!,” declared Roman when asked in a press conference on how she sees women who feel offended and are not comfortable in sharing female comfort rooms with transgenders. (If you have a problem just live with it).
It’s bizarre the way Roman turns a basic tenet of decency on its head. Why would women have to put up with the consequences of someone else’s personal choice?
This goes against the original argument fielded by gay activists sometime back — that gay people can’t help being gay and, therefore, need to be respected as such. Well now, somebody didn’t get the memo, it seems. Again, the fact is natural women can’t help being natural women. Thus they too have a right to their space.