Entrepreneur Ricky Reyes’s recent comments on gay “rights” drew flak from advocates of LGBTQ+ “equality”.
Reyes actually provides employment to a lot of gays and transgenders. It’s not fair that his critics are saying he has forgotten what it’s like to be discriminated against. You can actually argue that being discriminated against helped him work harder at proving himself. That’s not something that will likely happen to the new generation of gays who keep getting special treatment and assert their entitlement to special treatment.
A lot of people like me see him as a hard worker and savvy business person, not someone who is simply “gay”. Our sexual orientation shouldn’t define us. What we do and achieve is what defines us.
Since feminists want people to look beyond their gender and acknowledge their achievements instead, members of the LGBTQ+ community should do the same. They cannot keep telling people they need to be treated a certain way just because of their sexual orientation.
In fact being a rabid gay “activist” is a slippery slope that could easily lead to hate as Rappler columnist Shakira Sison demonstrates in this tweet.
Such rabid members of the LGBTQ+ community are negating even the work of feminists who have been discriminated against because of their gender. By highlighting their gender, misguided individuals within the LGBTQ+ advocacy want people to focus on the their identity, not their achievements. In doing so, they diminish their cause rather than elevate its profile.
In a video that’s making waves this week, successful businessman Ricky Reyes, founder of the iconic hairdressing empire that bears his name, echoes what had long been the sentiment of a good chunk of the gay community. Reyes makes a good point — that the gay community need not force themselves upon the broader public space as they are already part of a strong community that enjoy a long historical record of contributing value to society.
Ang affair ng mga bakla dapat sa atin lang ‘yan. ‘Wag nating pangalandakan. Bakit pa kailangan sabihin sa madlang people na ‘Huy, intindihin mo nga ako. Bakla ako.
Translated: “The affairs of gay people are our own community’s alone. Let’s not impose this on others. Why do we pester people by telling them ‘Hey, pay attention to us. We are gay.'”
On the issue of transgender “women” Reyes points out that these people still think like and, for all intents and purposes, are gay men. “Grind them and they’ll come out as gay hamburgers,” he quips in Tagalog.
Ricky Reyes is saying what some of us have been saying for so long – that members of the LGBTQ+ community do not have to force themselves on people who don’t like them. They have their own community they can go to anyway. Reyes is also proof Philippine society has had a long history of embracing its gay community. He is a success in his chosen endeavour and testament to the reality that real acceptance comes on the back of achievement and measurable success.
A successful entrepreneur from way back in the 1980s when “gay rights” was not the snowflake fashion statement it is today, Reyes has proven that “rights” or no “rights” people who have what it takes will be successful whether gay or straight. That said, Reyes is proof that the Philippines has long been accepting of its gay community — with or without the snowflake “activism” that infests the discourse today.
I read this rather pained article by a certain Jaya Jacobo published on Squeeze.Ph titled “Trans Politics after Gretchen Diez and Filipino Cisgenerity in a Time of Violence”. I describe it as “pained” because it comes across like the sad pleas of a spurned lover begging for the object of his affection to give him a “chance”.
The broader community of “hugot” sufferers would be quite familiar with the standard advise given to such poor sods — move on, live your life, and focus on those who accept you and appreciate you for who you are. Nobody is entitled to the acceptance much less the affections of those one pursues.
The kernel of the dysfunction in the thinking of “advocates” of trans “acceptance” is encapsulated in this passage from Jacobo’s piece…
I stood my ground and took my time. Another instance I opted to use the PWD restroom. And because it’s locked most of the time, I had to talk to the janitor, who looked at me from head to foot, only to ask about the disability that entitles me to the comfort of such room.
See, rather than take the advise of hugot counselors, he moves on and tries to force himself on other unappreciative communities — a second mistake he commits to come to terms with the first.
If today’s gender “activists” keep this up, they will continue to severely set back their cause and undo decades of progress their predecessors had supposedly achieved. The decline has already started thanks to the circus they kicked up around Gretchen Diez. But it is not too late to fix all that.
Recent revelations highlight the fact that Chayra Ganal, the janitress in the middle of the circus kicked up by Gretchen Diez (who “identifies” as a woman) after she was refused entry into a female restroom, is a contractual employee, pregnant, and a woman. Ganal is, in all ironies, the very embodiment of the archetypical “victim” the snowflakes who now rail against her have painted their people as.
Now Diez has been made into the shrill wailing postergirl of the LGBTQ “cause”. Even her political opinions are now reportedly given weight by no less than the Senate Committee on Women, Children, Family Relations and Gender Equality.
How about that, right?
Diez, it seems, is the latest manufactured victim that had been WEAPONISED by snowflakedom. Indeed, Ganal continues to be the subject of a vicious cyberbullying campaign being led by “thought leaders” of the feminist movement and the mighty Gay Lobby. No less than a member of Congress, Geraldine Roman is leading the charge, taking full advantage of the lofty soapbox accorded to her as a House Representative to launch her tirades against the hapless contractual employee of the vast Farmers Plaza Mall owned by the Araneta feudal clan.
Perhaps Gretchen Diez should man up and face the truth about what she had done. She used her connections while behind the dishonest disguise of victimhood to persecute the humble employee Chayra Ganal. That’s certainly not something to be proud of.
Activists preaching “tolerance” seem to be such experts on how people ought to feel. They contradict themselves when they dismiss the feelings of ordinary people whose space is being encroached upon by those whose feelings they selectively defend. They say certain “rights” are being violated when certain people feel they are not being “accepted”.
You “activists” should reflect first on just how inconsistent your advocacies are.
You talk so much about your rights, but what about the rights of women and girls to feel safe and secure while in a vulnerable state, half-naked doing their private business in a public toilet? I guess you didn’t think about that.
Who are you to tell others there is nothing to be afraid of? We don’t know everyone we encounter in public. How do I know what’s going on in everyone’s heads?
Some Like It Hot, Tootsie and Mrs Doubtfire. These are just a few Hollywood movies showing how straight men can dress up and pretend to be women and still have desires for women. It can happen in real life. Male predators can dress up as women and use the women’s public toilets.
How come people with acrophobia, claustrophobia and other phobias are generally understood but people with fear of being sexually assaulted by perverts in public toilets are being labelled “bigots”? Fear is normal. It is our way of protecting ourselves from potential threats.
Don’t presume to be the judge of what feelings are right or wrong. Everyone has a right to harbor feelings about any situation they find themselves in. We don’t have to like one another. We only owe one another respect, and that is only if everyone agrees that respect is earned when we all acknowledge everyone’s equal responsibilty to uphold community standards in shared spaces.